Jul 12, 2025
Nancy Kincaid delves into the life, lessons, and legacy of her late husband, Coach Dick Tomey. Through heartfelt anecdotes, Nancy shares how Dick embodied humility, resilience, and compassion both on and off the field. Their story highlights Dick’s dedication to transforming challenges into opportunities and his profound impact on players and colleagues. This episode underscores themes of leadership, forgiveness, and reinvention, intertwined with insights from Nancy’s experiences as an acclaimed author and Dick’s partner. Join Toby Brooks in exploring the enduring influence of a coach who turned obstacles into triumphs.
Jun 30, 2025
In this episode, Toby Brooks discusses the profound identity shifts individuals face when moving from one life phase to another. Drawing from personal experiences and insights from high achievers, including military veterans and Olympic athletes, Toby introduces the concept of “purpose storms” and emphasizes the importance of evolving rather than clinging to past identities. Discover Toby’s UN.D.O.N.E. Method ™ for rebuilding life with intention amidst change. Tune in for a preview of his upcoming conversation with Nanci Kincaid about legacy and the transformative journey beyond life’s significant endings.
May 31, 2025
Barrett Baker: From Walk-On to Leader for Life
In this inspiring episode of Becoming Undone, host Toby Brooks sits down with Barrett Baker—former walk-on turned team captain of the legendary 1998 Arizona Wildcats. Barrett shares the unlikely and unforgettable journey that took him from the bottom of the depth chart to the heart of one of the most successful teams in school history.
But this story goes far beyond football.
Now a decorated Assistant Fire Chief for the Tucson Fire Department, Barrett reflects on the leadership, integrity, and unwavering belief instilled by Coach Dick Tomey—lessons that still shape his life on the front lines and at home. With stories of handwritten notes, hard-earned respect, and quiet conviction, Barrett shows how a culture of belief can transform lives—and how one leader’s values can echo across generations.
This isn’t just a sports story. It’s a story about grit, mentorship, and becoming the kind of person others can count on—on any field, in any season.
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